Potential Scenarios: What’s Your Best-Case Scenario?
Life transitions can be unsettling, scary and overwhelming. Circumstances that seem hopeless or even jubilant in the moment can unfold in unexpected ways over time. If you don’t take the time to focus on what you want to happen with an event, you can lose focus or get hooked into thinking that leads to questionable actions.
One way to put yourself in a constructive state of mind is to visualize your desired outcome. This can be difficult if you are experiencing extreme emotional stress, so wait until you are calm and get the support you need. If your life event is a delightful one, still step back and enjoy the euphoria for a bit. Once you’ve settled then ask yourself, “What do I want to happen?”
Try to avoid fantastical or unrealistic thoughts such as, “I want to win the lottery so that I can get out of this situation!” Instead, start at the most basic, fundamental level.
When assessing your current life event or transition, it will help to clearly articulate what you want to happen. With your current situation in mind:
- Must-haves are the things you cannot move forward without. These are the circumstances that are required for you to have resolution with this situation.
- Nice-to-haves are the things you would like to see happen, but that you would be willing to compromise or negotiate.
- Deal-breakers are the things that you will not accept under any circumstances. These are the things that you require to change or that you will not agree to.
Use this worksheet to write down your must-haves, nice-to-haves, and deal-breakers.