Sharing a place with someone you love is exciting and romantic — but straight and same-sex partners who live together without getting married have some key money management decisions to consider.
Talk about money matters first.
Discuss your respective budgets, bills and income. What can you each afford? What does each of you want in regard to amenities? If one of you is moving into the other’s home, consider redecorating, renovating, or reorganizing to make it feel less like “your place or mine” and more like “our place.”
Share your secrets.
As uncomfortable as it might be to air your dirty financial laundry, a frank conversation about your debts, credit history, spending habits and pitfalls could save you an even harder conversation down the road if your financial past comes back to bite you.
Understand your cash flow as a couple.
Develop a plan for paying bills together and divide household expenses evenly or proportionate to each partner’s income. Many unmarried couples prefer to hold separate credit cards and bank accounts. Doing so allows each partner to establish and maintain credit in his or her name.
Set joint goals.
Want to retire together? Discuss how much each of you will contribute to retirement accounts and start saving. Want to buy a house? Plan on having or adopting kids? Getting these long-term goals out on the table will help you develop a realistic plan. Follow the same strategy for short-term goals such as saving for a travel holiday or buying new furniture. (Take our LifeValues Quiz for Spouses and Partners to see if you and your partner are a good financial fit.)
Split living expenses fairly.
Discuss how you will handle expenses such as Internet, cable, utilities, and groceries. Check out the many Web and smartphone applications that make it easy to divvy up bills.
Build your own credit.
You may be living together now, but it’s important to maintain a separate credit history. Keep a few bills in your name only and pay them on time each month. Automating regular monthly bills such as utilities and cable are a good way to ensure on-time payments. It is important in any relationship to protect your credit score. Be sure that any bills in your name get paid on time.
Be aware of gift taxes.
The Internal Revenue Service treats an unmarried couple as two single taxpayers. And while spouses can transfer assets to each other free of tax, unmarried partners, like all single individuals, can generally make gifts to another person only up to the annual gift tax exclusion amount without incurring federal gift tax.
Be smart about insurance.
Many private and public companies extend health insurance and other benefits to unmarried partners of employees. Ask your employer about any “domestic partner” insurance benefits offered by the company. Name your partner as a beneficiary on any life insurance policies that you hold.
Name your partner in your will.
Draft a will detailing the assets that you would like your partner and other beneficiaries to receive after you die. Also name your partner as beneficiary on your retirement accounts and investment accounts.
Give your partner power of attorney.
Have an attorney draft a health care proxy for medical decisions (along with a living will) and a durable power of attorney for financial decisions. These documents allow your partner to act on your behalf in the event of an incapacitating accident or illness.
Still not sure where to begin? Start by taking these 10 Basic Steps.